We always thought modern liberated women are getting rid of tradition be it old fashioned roles, or marriage a

The problem with that argument would be that you are attaching human characteristics to a mental concept (tradition) and taking it away from the actual humans (women). If the situation you described is the reality we actually find ourselves in, it can only be by the choice of women and their desire for emancipation from men's traditions. I just feel that to ignore the historical responsibility women themselves bear in acheiving their own emancipation is to underestimate them. Women have worked hard to free themselves from what we consider "tradition" so to refer to tradition as something out of the control of women is to not give women the credit.